Possibly the most surprising thing about being part of several different scholé groups is the deepening of friendships and easy development of new friendships. Our local scholé sisters group meets at a coffee house once a month to, of course, drink tea and coffee, eat delicious food, chat about our dreams and plans, and discuss a pre-chosen book. Some women have been friends for about 20 years, while others were merely acquaintances prior to our monthly meetings.
Among those engaging in restful learning, boundaries tend to fall away quickly or seem to not exist at all, as we cheer one another along in seeking Christ in all things. The fact is, whether the group is many or few, online or in person, those who eagerly seek the good, beautiful, and true in a restful manner can bear three gifts to each person they encounter in everyday life: the gifts of sweetness, delight, and godliness.
It seems that as the habit of seeking the good in books read can lead to seeking the good in strangers (as well as family members!) When we learn to take delight in our vocations as mothers, we are more eager to share and receive delightful things with other women (even one another’s accomplishments!) As faithful women, we begin to seek God’s will in all that happens and in all creation, encouraging competition to transform into communal glory and honor in light of God’s grace working in our lives (even during times of high stress!)
The truth is, no matter how fleeting or long-term the friendship formed in scholé might be, even “good-byes” are not so terribly sad due to shared beliefs and hopes which underpin such godly friendships, as we say in departure, “I pray for you and look forward to seeing you in Paradise someday, dear friend.”